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© April 2002

Turning the Other Cheek:

It's Smarter and Safer Than We Know!

~written from the common sense perspective of The Winds of the Soul~

by Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.)

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According to some, the adage to turn the other cheek simply means to stand and get clobbered without defending ourselves.  That kind of understanding doesn't make sense for a number of obvious reasons, and to the surprise of many, it's not scripturally sound as well.  In fact, as we will see, the whole notion of turning the other cheek is more an intelligent strategy of "winning" than most have ever realized. 

I know a lot of people that are confused over the Scriptural prescription that we "turn the other cheek" when faced with evil or aggressive adversity.  Such a stratagem seems to defy common sense from the onset.  To be sure, turning the other cheek is not something that comes naturally.  Most of us want to give tit for tat, giving as good as we get, or better, whenever we feel put upon or perceive that we're being aggressed against.  It's hard not to resist evil, but want to fight it directly and immediately when it threatens to impose itself on our life.  It's especially hard to stomach our tendency to react to any kind of conflict that threatens us.  Once hit, we want to strike back, or at least protect ourselves from being hit again. 

 What this tenet really means, when we're supposed to do it, how we're supposed to do it, and why we're supposed to do it are questions that have not been answered for most of us.  In short, we don't seem to be aware of the proposed wisdom behind it.  For some, it's simply an act of compliance to the Lord's message, a demonstration that we love Light more than darkness.  For others, it is an expression of bravery and civil decorum, refusing to stoop to the level of another's misconduct.  For still others, turning the other cheek simply means to stand and get clobbered without defending ourselves, a foolish direction that only further weakens its blind and stupid adherents.

But as we'll see, there's more to turning the other cheek than many understand....  In fact, the whole notion of turning the other cheek is more an intelligent strategy of "winning" than most have ever realized.  So, to my mind, the majority of explanations that are "out there" seem to stem from a overly simplified, nonsensical diatribe that actually undermines the very power of its position and diminishes what was meant when the instruction was first given. 

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Of immediate importance to us is to realize that this tenet has never been given as the only action condoned by God when faced with evil, as the Scriptures continually verify.  Nonetheless, it is the one that should be our first reaction, our first response and offering when confronted by the circumstances of evil.  This is what makes this stratagem so powerful and so important to remember....  And since it is the first step that often decides the specific direction of our journey, we should not only esteem the necessity of this mandatory, decretal step, but quickly realize thereafter that this is not the only step we were ever meant to take.

To begin to understand this notion of turning the other cheek we must realize that this prescription was first given within the context of offering no resistance to evil, a very powerful idea, one that proves itself to be quite flexible and a most resilient adversary to the darkness of evil....  Already we may be surprised by the turn of language here:  a flexible and resilient adversary?  How can "non-resistance" be  adversarial, we may ask?  Isn't that an oxymoron?  No, it isn't.  Many people get "non-resistance" and "turning the other cheek" mixed up with "passivity" and "surrender."  These are not the same things.  Both Christ and Gandhi amply demonstrated that. 

The idea of being non-resistant by turning the other cheek simply means that we don't engage the enemy with the enemy's tactics, weapons, or timetables.  Thus, we do not rush in and likewise attack our enemies in retaliatory fashion in the instant we have sustained damages.  Immediate retribution and revenge is not the end game here.  It's not so short-sighted.  Instead, we must have the ability to choose our response and not have it forced upon us.  Indeed, turning the other cheek is as much of a technique to preserve that right to choose than anything else.  Therefore, this is not a passively reactive strategy where we're allowing someone else to call the shots.  We're not to abdicate our position and understanding about matters, nor should we simply lay down and surrender to evil's mandates on each and every occasion it threatens.  Such a prescription does not cripple our capacities to defend ourselves, as self-defense is extolled and thought appropriate even by Biblical standards.  Again, being non-resistant to evil by turning the other cheek doesn't mean that we sit back and do nothing, or allow ourselves to be placated or overrun by our enemies.  It involves choice.  This specific precept suggests a kind of activity that is much more proactively responsive, decisive, and intelligent than that offered to us traditionally, as well as being opposed to the simple conditioned reflex of an "eye for an eye."

Of immediate importance to us is to realize that this tenet has never been given as the only action condoned by God when faced with evil, as the Scriptures continually verify.  Nonetheless, it is the one that should be our first reaction, our first response and offering when confronted by the circumstances of evil.  This is what makes this stratagem so powerful and so important to remember.  Because this is to be our leading strategy, we should be very aware as to where it may take us and for what we're being prepared.  After all, what's the point in taking the first step of a journey if no further progression is planned?  The first step cannot be an end to itself.  And since it is the first step that often decides the specific direction of our journey, we should not only esteem the necessity of this mandatory, decretal step, but quickly realize thereafter that this is not the only step we were ever meant to take.  No matter its importance, other steps will and should quickly takes its place if we are to continue on.  Therefore, turning the other cheek is not something that we should do in isolation from anything else, performed as the only thing we do with no further deference to the journey itself.  It's only the first thing we do, the first step we take while looking forward to those steps that surely are meant to follow. 

Why such a first step is so important to us becomes sublimely engaging the more we examine it.  For example, the more obvious understanding of the intelligence behind turning the other cheek has much to do with the recognition that such a reaction can help break an infectious cycle of violence, and in that alone there is inestimable advantage.  Accordingly, when turning the other cheek we may learn that our so-called enemy may not be our real enemy.  That is to say, within all the misunderstanding that can occur between various parties, there may be a possibility of brotherhood and friendship somewhere in the mess if we could only slow things down long enough for everyone involved to look for it.  When such aggressive reactions are curtailed, reasonable parties involved can reassess where they are and bring new perspectives to the table, perhaps even seeing the senselessness of continued violence and self-justified standards of retribution.  Thus, the idea of turning the other cheek creates a momentary opportunity of peace and negotiation, some needed breathing room----that is, if everyone involved is really interested.  It's a first step that, when bravely taken, can often calm the waters of storm before anyone really gets hurt. 

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Indeed, choosing not to resist evil on its own ground and according to its own set of rules is a legitimate way of turning the other cheek that, until lately, only a few have really understood.  Such an idea actually has basis today in what we call Game Theory, first derived from a mathematical model that laid out win-loss outcomes based on particular strategies of participation, originally proposed by Nobel laureate Dr. John F. Nash, Jr., of Princeton University, recently popularized by the Oscar winning movie, "A Beautiful Mind." 

As our first response, turning the other cheek has other different but harmonious meanings as well, which translate into a number of different practical scenarios that ultimately prove most beneficial to us, showing us the other steps that we must then traverse.  For instance, at times and in some circumstances, turning the other cheek may mean simply that we choose not to play the "game" that evil may offer us.  By itself, this can be an exceptionally instructive strategy that has many rewards.  

Indeed, choosing not to resist evil on its own ground and according to its own set of rules is a legitimate way of turning the other cheek that, until lately, only a few have really understood.  Such an idea actually has basis today in what we call Game Theory, first derived from a mathematical model that laid out win-loss outcomes based on particular strategies of participation, originally proposed by Nobel laureate Dr. John F. Nash, Jr., of Princeton University, recently popularized by the Oscar winning movie, A Beautiful Mind.  He brilliantly demonstrated that there are indeed certain conditions in some situations wherein the only way to win was not to play, offering a new means to evaluate real-life decision making in a variety of settings, including business and politics.  

We can immediately understand the power of this option when we think about the possibilities of thermonuclear war:  no one will win if such a war is ever begun; everybody can win if all players logically refuse to play the game.  Dr. Nash's mathematics and Game Theory helped to get us us successfully through the cold war.  Unfortunately, as we have been learning of late, all players may not be sane nor embrace the same sense of logic....  Nonetheless, the path of not playing to win is still the strongest card to be played, and indeed, becomes even stronger in the face of evil and other unpredictabilities.  Here's some reasons as to why....

When disreputable others bate us into playing their evil games, we will often lose to them because they actually control the rules of the board and generally change the rules whenever it is to their advantage, without us being any the wiser.  In other words, in order to win, evil plans to cheat us from the onset, although proffering us a game that on the surface seems fair, or so it continually promises us.  We all know or have known people engaged in like intentions.  These are often very duplicitous in nature, saying one thing and then doing another, all within the rubric of "Oh, you've just misunderstood me..." when subsequently caught or exposed. 

To ever hope to win against such adversaries, we are best advised to simply refuse to play in the ways they've insisted.  Our strength in refusing to participate is based upon our acceptance of the fact that evil really does exists and that it's not a figment of our imagination.  Knowing that, we'll more readily acknowledge the unlikelihood  of trying to get it to play fairly, change, or repent.  Indeed, those often attempting to get "evil" to change, or trying to change those habitually embracing and justifying evil to their way of thinking, only end up being duped themselves and allowing more evil to prosper.  Many learn too late that that which constitutes evil won't ever change, no matter the politically correct means some may think they have at their disposal.  It's crazy to play this game with the thought that we can resist enough to win when reason, fairness, and honesty are not respected.  Consequently, those that embrace evil can't change until they decide to let go of the evil they conspire to hold onto. 

But please, let us be certain of one thing.  By not playing the  game of our enemy, and refusing to be involved in their way doesn't mean we surrender the ability to play at all, withdrawing from the things we stand for and believe in.  Rather, we simply determine that their way of doing something will not be our way of doing something, and we will not confront our disagreements any further on their ground.  We will choose our own way, and in our time, if at all. 

The point is, that it will be our decision, not theirs, that decides the next step.  As we just said, to try to change them, or convince them to do otherwise, is generally a waste of time and only makes us more vulnerable to attack.  So we must be careful.  Evil, or rather those that embrace evil, will often try to convince us that theirs is the only way of doing something, that if we don't go their way, there is no other way possible.  But that's generally a lie.  There are always alternatives to their game, the most powerful often deciding not to play at all.  Moreover, deciding not to play their way then frees us up to do something else on our own and according to the rules that guide and govern us, contrary to their mandates and away from their pitfalls that first tried to entrap us.  So free, we can then choose a different course of action that will ensure the success of our operations, ideas, and beliefs.  This is yet another way in which we choose not to resist evil and do so without caving into it.  Indeed, in such a way, we can still flourish. 

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As we're beginning to see, turning the other cheek is, ironically, self-protecting and self-empowering.  It is not the self-sacrificial strategy that some would have us believe----it's not saying, "Oh, please go right ahead and prey on my innocence!"  Rather, it's saying,  "I will not react in like kind, but turn to them my innocence instead, choosing not to respond by stepping around the dark pit the adversary has put in front of me." .....   In fact, the "cheek" that we turn to another in this instance, is our very innocence.

Now, let's look at a common example....  We all have been in situations or engaged in conversations which suddenly take a turn for the worse, and realize only too late that we've been setup to be a party to someone else's contentiousness.  People often emotionally perseverate from one experience onto another, i.e. carrying-over their unresolved bad feelings and spirit into unrelated situations which then target and hurt innocent others.  Remaining in that conversation will only further the hysterical emotionalism of the other person(s), encouraging their anger to further vent inappropriately and perhaps then spread its venom to us.  If we're not careful, we will most surely become wounded during these inclemencies.  Stopping this cycle of events relies upon us not playing into the reactionary stimulus that surrounds us.  By not reacting, we don't play.  And that can effectively stop the destructive interaction in its tracks, perhaps even stopping it from being carried forward to yet another unsuspecting individual.  Not only do we stop this dark infection from continuing, but we then may help those contaminated to lift themselves out of the pit of contention they find themselves in.

Therefore, turning the other cheek does not mean that we need to subjects ourselves further to insalubrious environments, allowing oneself to be plummeted until unconsciousness sets in.  Instead, it becomes a means of recognizing and avoiding further discomfort by wisely refusing to play another's evil game, a game that has been setup for any and all competing players to lose.  Even if the other parties are not cognizant of what they're doing (as often is the case with others who don't always have a handle on their own peculiar dynamics) learning to avoid their subconscious shenanigans can only help us.  It can also begin to help them as well, as our refusal to play frustrates their dark habits from gaining a reinforced and deepened foothold in their own world.

Again, the only way to win is not to play, and that is effectively turning the other cheek.  When we can't discern what the rules are, or what the point is, or where someone is going:  stop and ask for clarification.  If we get none, something else is going on (someone's hiding the rules) and we should check out of the game the first chance we get.  To do this, simply and politely change the conversation, or tactfully leave it.  Don't choose to remain and become one of a long list of previously martyred enablers!  Trying to resist evil when it still remains cloaked will only result in further evil and misunderstanding being perpetuated, drawing us into its jaws in the process.  I'm sure we all have been in circumstances and arguments where this has happened, after which we wonder what on earth we've just been a part of, feeling drained, wounded, and very confused.  These are times we shouldn't have "played" but immediately left the ball park!

As we're beginning to see, turning the other cheek is, ironically, self-protecting and self-empowering.  It is not the self-sacrificial strategy that some would have us believe---it's not saying "Oh, please go right ahead and prey on my innocence!  Rather, it's saying, "I will not react in like kind, but turn to them my innocence instead, choosing not to respond to the evil by stepping around the dark pit the adversary has put in front of me."   Moreover, in turning the other cheek, we are specifically meant to show the other party that we are innocent of their game, that we don't know the rules and intentions of same, and really are not interested in knowing any more, and letting them see that side of us.  In fact, the "cheek" that we turn to another in this instance, is our very innocence.  That's what we turn to them and show them.  At times, we may look silly to others in this respect; even naive, unsophisticated, and ridiculous, and their subsequent misrepresentations of us may even hurt us a little bit.  Innocence often looks stupid to others who are mal-intentioned.  But by staying true to this tenet and being loyal to our innocence, we are really offering them a kind of wisdom that they just can't understand.  Not only do we avoid being made party to something which we were never meant to understand (our possible understanding having been thwarted as the real motivations for conflict are generally hidden) but we offer them a gracious way out as well by following us instead, with the hope that they withdraw themselves from embracing the evil they do.  Note, too, that we are simply not being passive here, but actively choosing another alternative, to show someone something different than what they're offering, i.e., innocence.

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Believe it or not, that's when turning the other cheek can really come into play for our benefit.  In this sense, turning the other cheek means to measure it again!  Turning the other cheek literally can mean to offer to someone else yet another pristine chance to impress upon us their point of view, imprinting us again with their intentions..., as if we hadn't heard it before.  Offering our other cheek in this regard is to offer our mind as a new "tableau rosa" (or blank sheet), a new opportunity to make their perspective clear without our prejudice or previous understanding.  This action slows everyone down and cautions us not to precede any further until we know what's accurate and what's not.

Well, that's all fine and good when we can determine from the onset that something nefarious is at foot, but what about other situations when before we know it, we're ambushed and embroiled in argumentative battle?  What do we do then?  Does the notion of turning the other cheek even then apply?  Yes, it does....  And interestingly enough, its just when we find ourselves so embroiled that this doctrine best applies.  Remember, it should always be our first response, but now in ways which we may have yet considered. 

You see, we often assume that we have the right to respond to others when having listened to what they've said.  We're so sure that we know exactly where another is coming from--after all we just heard them say what they did!  But have we really listened?  Are we so sure that we've understood the other person so well?  Truth be known, we are often far too confident about what we think we understand another's perspective and point of view to be.  In fact, so sure are we that we prematurely launch into a plethora of well-crafted objections and/or critical redirection without further thought as to possible inaccuracies.  But let's think for a moment.....

In woodworking and carpentry, and probably ever other craft under the sun, the experts tell us to always measure twice.   It's always a good idea to measure once, record it, and then measure again to check your results against our first finding.  If the project is really important, re-measuring three or four times is not unheard of.  It's funny perhaps, but no matter how expert we think we are, we continue to make a lot of mistakes.  Perhaps that's what makes an expert and "expert:"  they have more ways of checking themselves and do so more often than the rest of us because they've seen the reality and consistency of their own errors.  The rest of us just figure that we don't need the extra help.  "Once measured" is all that we need, or so we egocentrically fantasize.  With experience, however, most of us quickly learn that it's stupid not to measure twice, thrice or more.  We quickly learn that we don't often get it right the first time.

It's the same thing with our perceptions of other people, our understandings of conversations we have had, and most especially the arguments and disagreements we've found ourselves in.  Most of us just "measure" once, and go on thinking that we know exactly what it is that we just measured or understood, never questioning our accuracy of what we heard or saw.  But contrary to our own imaginings, studies have consistently shown that our immediate perceptions of things and the conclusions we draw from them are generally flawed.  Indeed, we're probably more wrong than right most of the time, our perceptions and memories not positing all the truth of the matters before us because of our inattentiveness, prejudice, or simple misperceptions.  Not having a complete understanding can lead us down some pretty scary, fast, and unsafe hallways if we're not careful.  Conversations can quickly turn sour, polarizing all parties.  Mistaken combinations of words can lead to eruptions of offensive speech.  Arguments have ways of accelerating, yielding subtle indications of patronization that can quickly turn aggressive and demeaning.   Continuing frustrations can then ignite into bouts of violent expressiveness, and so on.  If left unchecked, simple misunderstandings can suddenly put us all on a road where we forget about the Principles we hold sacred.  All because we're so cocksure of what we thought we heard and saw, and think we're above measuring twice...

Believe it or not, that's when turning the other cheek can really come into play for our benefit.  In this sense, turning the other cheek  means to measure it again!  Turning the other cheek specifically can mean to offer to someone else yet another pristine chance to impress upon us their point of view, imprinting us again with their intentions..., as if we hadn't heard it before.  Offering our other cheek in this regard is to offer our mind as a new "tableau rosa" (or blank sheet), a new opportunity to make their perspective clear without our prejudice or previous understanding.  This action slows everyone down and cautions us not to precede any further until we know what's accurate and what's not.  This is truly a measuring twice of our own perspective, giving ourselves another opportunity to see if what we think we understand is in fact stable and consistent with what we think we understood before from what was first measured.  We will be startled to see that our  re-measuring almost always demonstrates some disparity between what we first imagined was true and that which we now understand.  Chances are, the more times we ask for clarification from someone, the more times we'll see ourselves previously coming to conclusions which really weren't true.  The more we re-measure, the more accurate our understanding tends to become.  And that can help us!  It can protect us from sawing of a limb when we're still sitting on it!

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But this is where many people become confused.  They behave as if turning the other cheek is a mindless, often religious, outwardly defined rite to be performed in an isolated, never-ending ceremonial manner, singularly subordinating their behavior without true direction or understanding as to what fruit they should expect, thinking that this is what God intents for us and commands.  And yet, without thought or consciousness of the activity, they unwittingly remain in bad situations, repetitively turning the other cheek as if it in itself would magically address the situation at hand, needing no further thought or activity on their part, and wrongly thinking that this is the only step they need to take. 

To be sure, if we're off base in our understanding about things but nonetheless launch prematurely into our objections and projections, we could then become those involved in the perpetuation of evil.  Now, isn't that a turn of events?   Even though we may imagine it's all the other party's fault, we have unwittingly become involved in potentiating the very thing that we're trying to avoid.  Re-measuring can certainly help us side-step that mistake, as well as prevent us from making a fool out of ourselves when in the company of others.  Thus, in giving a person another chance to explain oneself or present their perspective anew, we in effect slow the situation down (a good thing) and turn the other cheek (which has yet to have been impacted) to see how well our former understanding holds up, measuring or gauging one "cheek's impact" against the other for consistency without prejudice. 

On the other hand, if the party we're trying to re-measure is not well-intentioned and perhaps even means us harm, our re-measuring or offering the other cheek will reveal that very fact in no uncertain terms.  In this case, checking our understanding of things by re-measuring can act to further protect and avoid us from becoming more involved with the possibilities of evil in others.  It also momentarily holds the potential of evil at bay, delaying further action while politely asking another to re-clarify their meaning and intentions.  Instead of giving a more accurate understanding of what's going on, malevolent individuals likely will try to lead us further astray, and their egocentric inconsistencies will become increasingly more obvious.  When this is revealed, we can then determine that this is an individual or circumstance with whom we should not probably be engaged, and like we said already, decide not to play. 

Again, offering the other cheek is kind of like saying, "Excuse me, but did I hear you correctly?  Could you please repeat what you said because I think I misheard you?"  With such restraint, we keep ourselves from rushing in where fools are likely to tread.  In this sense, that's what turning the other cheek can do for us in situations that may otherwise prove befuddling.  Thus, another good reason why turning our other cheek should always become our first response against any possible evil perceived.  It is a safety net that keeps us from becoming prematurely embroiled in something that we don't fully understand and could hurt us. 

Please note again, that in making this tenet our first reaction in situations that may appear unsettling, we're still doing something positive and active.  By evaluating the impressions we received when we offered others our "cheeks," we choose to not resist evil but actively hope for the best from another.  When turning to them our innocence, we always give another the benefit of the doubt when it comes to our perceptions of things, and that's a loving and kind thing to do.  Yet, this process proves wonderfully precautionary as well in that we can simultaneously re-measure both their intentions as well as the accuracy of our own perceptions, ready to exit the game/interaction if it proves unpalatable.  Here, we've preserved our power to choose and have been able to do the "right thing" in the wisest and safest way possible, without offering up our annihilation. 

Offering friendship with an open hand (hiding no weapons) is a mark of civility in our world today.  However, when it becomes determined that someone is resolutely determined to hurt or exterminate the other, this precept is obviously no longer operable.  Once we understand that another person means us harm, it's time for us to move on.  We don't have to keep offering them more chances for clarification.   We don't have to be continually hurt and confused, nor continually subject ourselves to the evil overtures of another, being further drawn into their ensnaring net.  Wisdom dictates that under no circumstance should we continue to engage with parties who wish us harm.  Once that is known, the true purpose of turning the other cheek has then been satisfied and fulfilled.  The first step has been completed.  After which, it's time to take other steps.    

  Indeed, this may be the case in the Middle East, when no matter what a party may do, extremists, bigots, and misguided religious zealots vie for the unholy eradication of another people.  There is rarely any sense or justification to offer oneself as a sacrificial lamb to the slaughter.  Once the other cheek has been offered, and the intentions of all parties have been clearly determined, however long it takes, then the information gathering has been concluded.  If evil is a foot, we should stand clear of its games.  We don't then passively offer our head on the chopping block thinking that somehow this will be a holy act of persuasion that will appease or soften the enemy's heart.  It won't.  Turning the other cheek in no way should come to represent the senseless surrendering of life with the hope that everything will then somehow work out.  There is no Scriptural verse or passage that suggests otherwise. 

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Just think about it, a child will readily admit that they don't quite understand yet ask for more clarification and instruction as to another's intentions and purposes.  Children want a lot of re-measuring!  They are very aware of their own limitations and always seek the means to understand better than they did, and do so in all humility.  But in their inquisitiveness they are generally friendly and loving to others, surprised if their open hand is ever bitten.  Once they feel the presence of evil, they don't directly resist it but generally will turn away and simply decide not to play.  They lead first with the inoffensiveness and acceptance of love, faith and trust, enquiry and curiosity. 

But this is where many people become confused.  They behave as if turning the other cheek is supposed to be a mindless, often religious, outwardly defined rite to be performed in an isolated, never-ending ceremonial manner----singularly subordinating their behavior without true direction or understanding as to what fruit they should expect, thinking that this is the only step God intents for us and commands when faced by evil.  And so, without thought or consciousness of the activity, they unwittingly remain in bad situations, repetitively turning the other cheek as if in so doing such an action would magically address the situation at hand, needing no further thought or activity on their part.  They wrongly think that this is the only step, the only response, they ever need to take.  Dogmatically offering themselves in blind sacrifice, they then think themselves martyred and holy for doing so without ever understanding the merit and prize that they ignore.  But nothing could more superstitious, faithless, and wrong.  Like all tenets from the Scriptures, we must actively be a part of their understanding in order to glean their true intent and treasure.  And the tenet or commandment of turning the other cheek is no different.

To the contrary, turning the other cheek becomes a wise, healthy, strong, and safe way in which we can side-step the intentions of evil, and be certain in our manner that we have been civil, unpretentious, and innocent in the process.  It is an active strategy of non-resistance that powerfully helps us keep us out of harm's way while at the same time keeping us soundly positioned within the Light within us.  It is not saying that we won't get hurt or suffer collateral damage.  It is saying that by following this tenet, any possible hurt will likely be minimized.  As such, it is always the first thing that we should do when faced with the possibilities of evil, and do so intelligently by keeping our mind active and perceptively readied for the steps that will surely come thereafter. 

Indeed, after we have responded by turning the other cheek and gained the information necessary, then it is that we must do something else, such as re-engage the other party if it proves appropriate and promising, or getting out of their way to avoid further contention.  At all times, the act of turning the other cheek then becomes an initiating and empowering response, one that prepares the way for something better, safer, and more constructive.  As we've said before, this precept is not an end to itself.  It is not the only card that is playable or is allowed. It's only the first card that should be played, and played intelligently from our heart.  The other cards to be played (the other steps we can take) will make themselves known in due course, as they are held in hand and further empowered by the rest of the children within us.

Interestingly, the more we have become resensitized to the missing children within us, the easier it is for us to respond in such a manner, because turning the other cheek was their manner of doing things from the beginning.  Just think about it, a child will readily admit that they don't quite understand and ask for more clarification and instruction as to another's intentions and purposes.  Children want a lot of re-measuring!  They are very aware of their own limitations and always seek the means to understand better than they did, and do so in all humility.  But in their inquisitiveness they are generally friendly and loving to others, surprised if their open hand is ever bitten.  Once they feel the presence of evil, they don't directly resist it but generally will turn away and simply decide not to play.  They are most charitable to others, leading first with the inoffensiveness and acceptance of love, faith and trust, enquiry and curiosity.  These are the attributes of His Love that lead to the inescapable wisdom condensed within the tenet of offering the other cheek.  This has always been their first step as directly taught to them by our Father in Heaven.  This is perhaps why He said that only the children, who believe in Him (who are after the image of His Heart), would be allowed back within the Kingdom of Heaven, they having the understanding and inclination of Spirit necessary for re-admittance. 

Specifically, that means only those children within us that still want and wish for the heart of our Father will know how important these things really are, and will be capable of providing the inspiration for our redirection.  Therefore, this was, and still is, a part of our inheritance, if we would only accept it, if we would only re-sensitize ourselves again to these sacred feelings, restoring them again to our awareness, reconnecting again to the Heavens.  Without such a determined course of action, obedience to the tenet of turning the other cheek will otherwise prove overly cumbersome and unmanageable, likely missing the mark when and if it is blindly and rigidly executed.

But when the children within us are allowed to once again sit in the judgment seat and see through our eyes, having been regathered and restored within us (as is fully explained within the Winds of the Soul), they will fill us with these Heavenly inclinations and characteristics anew, these things being reborn to us from the Spirit, being the very same perspectives of heart that we use to experience within ourselves when we were much, much younger and were in closer communion with His Kingdom. 

And if and when this reawakening is allowed to reoccur within us, our perceptions and responsiveness will then change for the better, bringing those primordial realities and ancient wisdoms back to mind, making them attractive and strong.  Then turning the other cheek  becomes the most natural thing in the world for us to do, our first response to another, our first loving inclination, as well as a strong shield and direction against the possibilities of evil in this world.  Would our Father leave us otherwise so alone?  I think not....

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