The Official Winds eNewsletter
Copyright © August 2002
Our Children's Inheritance:
More On The Dumbing Of America!
~written from the common sense perspective of The Winds of the Soul~
by Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.)
|And while we're at it, let's sue France for "war crimes" against the people of the U.S.A. because under the covert operation of "food" they've clandestinely imported the weapon of French Cuisine, and the ultimate devastator more insidious than Anthrax, the self-addicting and self-administered lethal "French Fry..."||
Well, it's made the news everywhere.... A man has filed a class action suit in New York in which he blames the large Fast-Food Restaurants for making him fat. He outrageously claims he didn't know what was in the food he was eating, arguing that these restaurants should have more fully disclosed the contents of their food. He maintains that if he were better informed, then he wouldn't have eaten from fast food restaurants 4-6 times a week for half of his life.... right....! Of course, we are asked to dismiss the facts of his own neglected responsibilities, well established patterns of self-indulgence, and outlandish greed. Let's blame everybody for our own stupidity and feel justified in doing so. Remember, it's our "right!"
And while we're at it, let's sue France for "war crimes" against the people of the U.S.A. because under the covert operation of "food" they've clandestinely imported the weapon of French Cuisine, and the ultimate devastator more insidious than Anthrax, the self-addicting and self-administered lethal "French Fry," which has been deceptively pushed into our everyday diet, spreading obesity throughout our nation and threatening our national security. Talk about terrorism! Pastry shops beware!
Just another sad example of the power given to false victims in our society, and our willingness to listen to them. Just another example of the many flawed lessons and examples were passing onto our children. Just twenty years ago, such outlandishness wouldn't have gotten the time of day.
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|Please forgive the sarcasm but you know, if we keep this up we'll next be asking for compensation from the Sun and the Moon for aberrant weather patterns and the damages that are subsequently caused. Maybe the absolutely ridiculous, self-appointed, puppet International War Crimes Court in Europe will want to get into this one! What's next, one can only imagine....||
It should be to no one's surprise that we've obviously become a nation that overeats and doesn't get enough exercise. But let's not blame ourselves for our lack of discipline and common sense. Oh, no! Let's go after the other guy.... Yeah, let's recast the image of MacDonalds and BurgerKing into the Mafiosi! It's all been a conspiracy, just like the guilty Tobacco companies who shoved cigarettes into our mouths and forced us to inhale.... They made us do it.... They're the ones really responsible! And then there's the phone company asking us to make all those calls to satisfy our social obligation to "reach out and touch some one," consequently creating all those family problems! Where's Jerry Seinfeld when you need him...? Let's scapegoat all our problems!
Please forgive the sarcasm but you know, if we keep this up we'll next be asking for compensation from the Sun and the Moon for aberrant weather patterns and the damages that are subsequently caused. Maybe the absolutely ridiculous, self-appointed, puppet International War Crimes Court in Europe will want to get into this one! What's next, one can only imagine....
If this state of affairs weren't so real, it would be laughable! In fact, underlying this comedic tragedy there lies yet another indication of just how out-of-control we've become. We have forsaken our stewardship and taken lightly our responsibilities to the rising generation. We have become a nation of finger-pointing whiners, malcontents that wish to blame everybody for our own personal self-inflicted woes, trials, and tribulations. And that's just another telling symptom of our national moral decay. It doesn't seem to be getting any better.... Because we're now teaching the children of this country all our bad habits and the rewards of same.
It begins when we mistakenly think that purpose of this life is to obtain pleasure, and then gear all our energies to accomplish that task. Satisfied with our material wealth and worldly advantages, we arrogantly think we have no need of anything else.
When we look for reasons why all of this is occurring around us, we shouldn't be too surprised to learn where it all starts. It begins when we no longer acknowledge our insignificance, believing that we have been responsible for all our prosperity. It begins when we become myopic and take for granted the seeming regularity of our lives, believing that the money will always be there, that our health will always be with us, that medical science and technology will save us from our problems. It begins when we mistakenly think that the purpose of this life is to obtain pleasure, and then gear all our energies to accomplish that task. Satisfied with our material wealth and worldly advantages, we arrogantly think we have no need of anything else. We're proud of all our accomplishments, and take glory for all our successes while refusing to be responsible for any collateral damage we've caused in the process. It's now all about us getting ahead personally and letting the other guy look out after himself. It's all about winning and justifying ourselves in the process.
I don't want to be a killjoy, but I think we have it all wrong. Despite all the flag waving and isolated incidents of generosity of recent times, and the embarrassing self-indulgent banter of how great we Americans are, we've become a very selfish people who may write a few charitable checks on occasion but for the most part have forgotten how to invest in what really matters, disregarding our children's futures, ignoring the true foundations of our prosperity, and have thanklessly turned our back on the God who has blessed us. Not a very pretty picture, is it?
In all civilizations of the world this attitude of self-centered smugness with a twisted dose of independence has been the single most important reason for a nation's decline and ultimate demise, leading to plagues of misdirected decision-making which simply put us further off course. It's an ill wind that brings about an indifference to what is "right" and what is "wrong," what is "good" and what is "bad." Moral decay precedes all else, like a harbinger warning of the storms to come. When the Spiritual Light within us begins to go out, we have no other star to guide us, and oh, how dark the darkness becomes....
|Like a contagion, such pridefulness ripples through our families, then our schools, our culture and our government. It becomes the basis of all our decisions, and deceptively encourages selfishness in others. It sucks the life out of freedom and the worth of reason, taking all the air out of the room. It suffocates the foundations of humility and love, smothers justice and dispels any hope for the 'morrow.||
Of course, this demise all starts within each of us, and then begins to touch and influence those close to us, later creeping outward to all the world. Like a contagion, such pridefulness ripples through our families, then our schools, our culture and our government. It becomes the basis of all our decisions, and deceptively encourages and engages the selfishness in others. It sucks the life out of freedom and the worth of reason, taking all the air out of the room. It suffocates the foundations of humility and love, smothers justice and dispels any hope for the 'morrow.
The ramifications of this state of affairs has impact on all our futures, reaching out and contaminating those over time. All of the decisions we make and the actions we take today become the foundation for our children's world tomorrow. We set the tone, the example, and the direction for those following us. Moreover, our children eagerly want to become like us. They are very smart and they learn very quickly. And they are closely watching so as to imitate our every action. They watch and learn what is important to the adult world, and then work within themselves to emulate same.
But we're not being very wise with this invisible stewardship we carry. We carelessly imagine that our kids won't be affected by our own questionable conduct and behavior, believing that we have successfully swept its notice under the carpet.
Nevertheless, as our children watch, they are learning the misbegotten lessons that will ensure our nations' further decay. They learn by watching the political power-plays and financial waste of our government, that everything about them is largely fueled by a twisted self-interest and corruption at the highest levels. They learn that in order to subsidize this despicable waste, they are extorted to pay half of everything they work for in taxes, and that somehow that's supposed to be okay. They learn that financial kickbacks and graft are the norm and that politicians only listen to special interest groups and big business who can pay for their attention and reward them accordingly. They learn that public service is really a code word for self-service and subsidies for the special interest groups. Moreover, they see that the greed of our public corporations is also rationalized, and that incompetence and sloth both in high and low places are practices that are everywhere acceptable.
|By observing us further, they learn that premarital sex and extramarital affairs are acceptable, if not cool and trendy, and that hurting others in the process is just part of the game. Desensitizing themselves further, they're learning that sex by itself really doesn't mean that much, but that it does "sell" and what sells makes you rich, and anything that makes you rich has to be okay---the ends justifying the means.||
By watching us, they learn that there is little they can do to change anything, to let sleeping dogs lie, and not stand up for the truth of anything. They learn to be afraid of bullies and that voting is passé. They learn that the expression of personal ideals which are not politically correct is "nerdy" and will likely be persecuted. They learn to protect their own tail and that scapegoating is normal. They learn that they'd better offensively use and step-on others for their own personal advancement, because if they don't, someone else will just to it to them first.
By observing us further, they learn that premarital sex and extramarital affairs are acceptable, if not cool and trendy, and that hurting others in the process is just part of the game, collateral damage that is expected and then diminished in importance. Desensitizing themselves further, they're learning that sex by itself really doesn't mean that much, but that it does "sell" and what sells makes you rich, and anything that makes you rich has to be okay---the ends justifying the means. They're learning, too, that if they lie, it's okay and signifies they're really smart if they can get away with it.
And in all of the examples of living that we're giving them, probably the most destructive is that there really is no need for any morality to live by, no values worthy to consider or exalt, no code of conduct that should inspire and uplift, no honorable direction to guide us, especially if they happen to get in the way of immediately satisfying their own needs. By all of this, they learn that they can make it up as they go along.... because everybody else does. Such is the instruction of the world.... reinforced by our own conduct.
So wanting our approval and acceptance so as to feel comfortable with our bad examples, they act to shut themselves off internally, desensitizing their conscience to quiet any dissenting voice. So willing, they sacrifice anything that is inherently "good" within themselves, repressing the facts of our contradictions and duplicities so as to not embarrass us any further. We've taught them not to confront a lie, but twist the truth to fit and cover it up, even though the truth becomes damaged in the process. As is fully explained within the Winds of the Soul, such is the way by which their own crippling Frustration Complexes are given our breathe of life, and they too become "Keepers of the Lie." They're learning to live just as we do, good little robots, and then to deny that they've done anything wrong. And on this basis of our examples, we ask them to make similar decisions and finish grow-up. Talk about giving a child a loaded gun....
|What are we creating for our future? What kind of people will our children become but those of our own making, fashioned directly from the fabric of our own muddy actions and rationalizations..., only more ripened in their iniquity. Our own encouragement of sin being a loathsome yoke around their necks, they learn to wear it proudly the more selfish they become.||
What are we creating for our future? What kind of people will our children become but those of our own making, fashioned directly from the fabric of our own muddy actions and rationalizations..., only more ripened in their iniquity. Our own encouragement of sin being a loathsome yoke around their necks, they learn to wear it proudly the more selfish they become. If we think that saying to them, "Just do what Mommy and Daddy say, but don't do what Mommy and Daddy do," will have any positive or correcting influence on them, our IQ's must have slipped below fifty....
When we hesitate, or don't have the time, to tell our children what is moral and ethical and what is not, and most importantly why it is so, showing them by the way we live, that's a true sign that we no longer clearly see the significance of the teachings that made this county great. When all we're concerned about is that our kids get to soccer practice on time, do their chores (if any), and generally make us look good, then despite all our sycophantic fuss and other superficialities, we're no longer fit to be parents....
We speak of things such as "quality time," and yet fail to understand what true quality is all about. When we sacrifice our own personal moral development, or leave it up to someone else like the local priest or pastor, our kids won't get the message either. An occasional lesson from the church down the way, a "hug" and "high-five," or some "family-time" aren't powerful enough to substitute for true parental mentoring.
We seem more concerned as to whether we should or should not spank a child for an infraction then to ensure the disciplining of their moral understanding and sensitivity to others. What kind of people become dramatically outraged when they hear about any kind of child abuse, yet remain indifferent to their own children's moral development and the other hidden influences in their lives...? How can we continue to be such poor examples of humanity, and then expect our children to rise above their circumstances? More than anything else, we demonstrate that we're wholly concerned with outward show and performance, and fail to take the steps necessary to ensure for our children's "inner world" and spiritual development. And, our kids get this message loud and clear.
We would think that the need for moral education should by this time be self-evident, along with the other freedoms we enjoy, but it isn't. When the majority of our rulers act as if they are godless, side-stepping and parsing issues without any compulsion to be fair, but always ensuring "legality," when lawsuits arise over the fact of the mere mention of the word God in our land, or think that we can blame a restaurant because we're fat, we prove that as a nation we are losing our moral center, being morally bankrupt, despite how many churches and synagogues line our streets.
Is it any wonder that we're seeing more teenage pregnancies, more drinking and drug abuse, more lying and cheating in schools? Of course not. When we take time to consider the domino effect of shirking our own parental duties of properly educating our children, it's surprising we don't see a greater decline in their humanity. We no longer teach our children how to make appropriate decisions nor show them what they are actually making decisions about, leaving to God-knows-who to instill within our little ones some of the most important lessons we have in life. We have devalued and gutted any teaching system that we once had in this country, making it politically incorrect and likely of being sued to speak about anything that remotely makes us aware of what is "good." We are deceptively led to believe that everything is relative, no right or wrong, no good or bad, that any possible differentiation is rigid and right-winged. And, you know what.... with all the silence and neglect, we're really getting exactly what we deserve.
We would think that the need for moral education should by this time be self-evident, along with the other freedoms we enjoy, but it isn't. When the majority of our rulers act as if they are godless, side-stepping and parsing issues without any compulsion to be fair, but always ensuring "legality," when lawsuits arise over the fact of the mere mention of the word "God" in our land, or think that we can legitimately blame a restaurant because we're fat, we prove that as a nation we are losing our moral center, being morally bankrupt, despite how many churches and synagogues line our streets. The costs of our extended merriment and foolishness are accruing, and the Piper still must be paid...
So what do we do? Can we call back the moral sensitivities that once graced this land of ours? Can we find the way to save that which was good and surgically remove the bad? Are we still wise enough to stop this deterioration? I'm hoping that some of us are, and by God's hand will make us stronger to touch others with the message to return to God's graces, no matter our religious persuasions, before it's too late.
If we can begin to talk about this more, and share with just a few others our feelings about what is happening and what we can do about it, we can make a difference. I really believe that. It has been said that there are only seven degrees of distance between ourselves and anybody else in our country, and just a few more with everybody in the whole world. That means that we can be more of an affect than we realize by beginning to speak more about "goodness" and the needs to be educated regarding our morality with just those around us, and then ask others to pass it on....
Then, we must begin to do something
that few will find comfortable. We must take the time to share our
personal story with our children, taking the time to tell our children the
truth of our lives, disclosing to them all the details that demonstrate that a
higher, not lower, moral ground is what actually made us happy, not the other
To begin with, we must learn to re-sensitive ourselves again to what it means to be fair and honest within our lives. We must personally practice to be honest with everything we do and with which everybody we meet. Then, we must begin to do something that few will find comfortable but will probably be the most courageous thing we will ever do in life. We must take the time to share our personal story with our children, taking the time to tell our children the whole truth of our lives (not just the varnished version), disclosing to them all the details (some shameful) that demonstrate that a higher, not lower, moral ground is what actually made us happy, not the other way around. We are to disclose judicially and tactfully, taking into consideration such things as circumstance, age-appropriateness, etc., but the truth of our lives and the conclusions we have drawn, must be shared. It's of greater worth than most of us might know. It's all important that our children learn about the possibilities of life from those living closest to them and with them..., instead of the TV set, video games, or the movies. Indeed, it's what our kids have always wanted from us. It is the richest inheritance we can give them.
Included in this mentoring form of education of who, we, their parents, really are and the truths we've come to know, should be the following two wonderful and cogent directions:
First, our children need to understand what can hurt them spiritually/psychologically and what can benefit them, and that generally translates into knowing what is "good" and what is "bad," and knowing how to discipline ourselves accordingly. Teaching your children to know, love, and reverence that which is "Good" above all else will be your greatest legacy to them, and your children's children. This should be our first priority as parents. Our own examples of life history can and should provide a wealth of examples for them, offering a proving ground that has already been tread by us, instead of asking them to learn everything (and the hard lessons) about life from scratch. In my experience, when a young person can actually see how deep the pit of despair really goes, few wish to enter thereafter. Goodness then becomes the far more attractive adventure and their guiding Light.
Second, we need them to understand that whatever they do will have consequences in life, which like ripples on a pond set into motion by a rock thrown from our hand, can continue on and on long after they left the water's shores. Thus, whatever any of us do or decide upon, good or bad, will flow from our hands and affect others and ourselves indefinitely. Herein, personal responsibility can be learned. Again, we should draw upon our own histories for this information to become meaningful to their young ears and hearts. This will teach them to be prudent in all that they do, especially because it will affect others and themselves indefinitely thereafter. This acts to reinforce young minds to act intelligently and sensitively to others, to think beyond themselves. Being sensitized to these realities awakens their heart to be concerned about how their interactions affect others, and vice versa, encouraging the instruction to treat others as respectfully and well as they themselves would like to be treated.
About the Author: Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.) is a Clinical Psychologist and Neuroscientist having been educated abroad where he completed his postgraduate studies at King’s College, the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, and then graduated and received his Doctorate from the University of Oxford, Oxford, England. He has been in private clinical practice and medical research for over 25 years, being active as an author, popular radio and TV personality, public speaker, and biomedical researcher. An expert in a number of fields including Forensic/Criminal Psychology, Child and Family/Relationship Psychology, and Neuropsychology. He has also served as an expert scientific advisor, product innovator and formulator, and professional consultant to the Medical and Pharmaceutical Industries. He is the author of The Winds of the Soul~Heaven’s First Voice To Us, as well as numerous other scholarly papers and works.
These teaching-interactions should be continuous and not just selectively talked about on special occasions, something that continually needs to be taught in all familial and social circumstances. Yet, quite amazingly, these two fundamentals are rarely ever discussed in our homes anymore with any regularity. Despite how powerful these simple teachings can become, they are often regulated to positions of less importance or are dealt with superficially.
For those of you more Biblically astute, you will notice that these two points actually mirror in kind the two greatest commandments on which all other life instructions are and should be based, namely and foremost, Love the Lord thy God with thy whole heart, mind, and soul, and the second which is like unto it is, Love thy neighbor as thyself. What I am recommending here are descriptive expositions and extensions, a broadening translation as it were, of how to practically and simply apply these two great commandments to our lives and the lives of our children, and why they make so much practical sense... after which, the spiritual understanding of these then becomes more self-evident and essential. (More of this understanding can be found in the Winds of the Soul)
Without teaching our children of our lives regarding our road to understanding these great commandments, of loving Goodness and being sensitive to others, and the many lessons we have learned which proves their great value, we do them a great disservice, and condemn them to repeat and make all the same mistakes we have made before them and more. I ask you, what kind of parents would we be to them, to do that? Why would we ask them to painfully and laboriously reinvent the proverbial wheel? How can we justify ourselves from keeping them from their true inheritance----more valuable than money or gold, because it sets their feet upon a road of understanding?
So we really have a choice, don't we. Continue to do nothing, and let our children's only teacher be the "world," or mentor them the way Heaven would have us, intelligently intervening with love, honesty, and compassion, so that they may understand the world and be "in" it but not "of" it. If we do, then we equip them with the tools needed to find happiness in life, and bless untold numbers that will follow them. If you're not sure as to how to do all of this or what's really being talk about here, the Winds of the Soul can help you know more, and then what to do with it all. You know, it's never too late to begin.... You'll be surprised at how your life and the life of your children can change thereafter. But it must begin with you....
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