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Copyright © August 2003
Recalling the Odor of Hatred...
Why is it that we've forgotten the smell?....
~written from the common sense perspective of The Winds of the Soul~
by Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.)
|Although most of the kids we knew when growing up were kind, considerate, and "normal" in most respects, if we think about it further, we may begin to recall that there were always some amongst us who began to slyly set themselves above the rest while discounting their fellows.||
Most of us no longer think about the experiences we had when we were in school. But I've always maintained that there is a great deal of information back "there" that we can still benefit and learn from if we just take the time. To this end, I would like to reexamine some particular patterns that were being manifested before us when we were younger that many of us have not thought about for years. What we will discover should work to build our confidence and understanding of what is happening to us today, and how to recognize and become further aware of some of the players.
Although most of the kids we knew when growing up were kind, considerate, and "normal" in most respects, if we think about it further, we may begin to recall that there were always some amongst us who began to slyly set themselves above the rest while discounting their fellows.
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Perhaps counter- intuitively, these same individuals seemed to magically become more socially prominent over time right before our eyes, making us question that what we first observed, querying how someone who could be so mean was also so very popular. But not matter the observed inconsistency, the patterns were there.
Although at first, their behavior may have seemed innocent enough, as egos developed and interfaced within the social environments of the playground, the older they became, certain kinds of managed meanness and unkindness began to surface more regularly and rhythmically, and with the same cadence then quietly disappear. From Grade School into Junior High and then on into High School, there was an evolution afoot that most of us can remember, although we weren't too sure as to what to call it or how to categorize the phenomena. Perhaps counter-intuitively, these same individuals seemed to magically become more socially prominent over time right before our eyes, making us question that which we first observed, querying how someone who could be so "mean" was also so very popular....
But no matter the observed inconsistency, the patterns were there. This "breed" of kid clandestinely became increasingly unkind to others, less generous and intolerant of others' differences, more inclined to hate than to love, and generally sought their selfish advantage before anything else. Yet, they always managed to operate beneath the radar of many supervising adults as well as many of their more naive peers, being careful to continually groom and manipulate the opinions others held of them. Accordingly, they appeared socially skilled if not eloquent in their social demeanor, occupying places of regard and respect amongst others on the basis of their being very popular, verbally proficient, and the smoothly adept manner in which they successfully made themselves appear mannered and appropriate, without hateful or malicious intent.
Ever since the later years of Grade School, these self-absorbed tendencies became to show themselves more regularly, albeit always slyly hid from public view, until finally becoming a base distinguishing characteristic of their personality. These kids would grow up, not shedding but ever magnifying those characteristics while honing their abilities to hide their selfish designs from public discovery. Indeed, these tendencies became part and parcel of their adult functioning personalities, many of whom today are known by a host of politically correct names and distinctions. Can you guess who these kids turned out to be, have become, and are, today?
|It seemed to start with the development of social groups and cliques, some of which became more competitive over time---and the rumoring of who was "cool" and who wasn't, based on the ever evolving subjective data of their exclusionary personal preferences and socially perceived values, which proved always relative and inflationary to their myopic perspective.||
In order to more clearly understand who these may be, let's take a further moment to remember what these kids were really were like back when we all rode bicycles and carried bag lunches to school.
For most of us while growing up, friendships generally remained open and flexible, and there was always tolerance displayed for those who we didn't know as well. But for these other kids, and I bet we all knew at least a half dozen of them or so, friendships were calculated to insulate and project their own superiority over others.
It seemed to start with the development of social groups and cliques, some of which became more competitive over time---and the rumoring of who was "cool" and who wasn't, based on the ever evolving subjective data of their exclusionary personal preferences and socially perceived values, which proved always relative and inflationary to their myopic perspective.
These kids were often subtly involved in setting up and maintaining the measures by which others would be judged. Type-casting of others evolved to becoming more exclusionary and elitist, often ridiculing and making fun of others who didn't measure up to their self-absorbed standards. And these measures could be and proved very hurtful to those on the "outside."
Although there were always exceptions, of course, for those who took to advantaging themselves at the expense of others, the measure of such standards as looks, clothes, money, family standing in the community, the cars owned, were all a part of the game and climate, becoming more and more important for the few that were born with an abundance of these things, allowing them to often mock those who weren't so blest.
Over time, social pressures grew and became more inflamed by their slyly targeted rhetoric. Subsequently, their social winnowing procedures became even more cruel, dispassionate, and heartless. Accordingly, the "have not's" were often snubbed and ignored while the "have's" glorified and magnified their existence in popularity and social power at the expense of everybody else.
But it wasn't just the outward treasures of life that created these dispositions. It was something else entirely, operating beyond the purview and realization of most kids, but gingerly embraced by the peculiar few who saw the opportunity of personal aggrandizement and felt no compulsion to resist it, especially if it meant the further promotion of their own narcissistic evolution.
|The realities of these characteristics and nuances of personality are things that few of us ever fully recognized or saliently defined at the time. Indeed, most of us today remain at a loss as to why these kids behaved the way they did, or understand why somebody would actually chose to behave this way on purpose. Wanting to think the best of them, most of us probably believed that these kids would have grown out of their High School ways and become better people. Some did, for sure, but unfortunately some did not, rather hardening into more of what they would later become.||
Looking back, the one irreducible factor, motive, and naked expression turns out to be personal "hatred" and its accompanying jealousies. The powers of "hatred" were esteemed above all else. These were the intangibles that most of us learned to avoid, and subsequently and charitably, objected to their being cast as the possible motives of others, sensing as Shakespeare so aptly put it, "we knew not the doctrine of ill-doing, no..., nor dreamed that any did" (Shakespeare, "The Winter’s Tale," act 1, sc. 2). Yet, it was this composite characteristic of "hatred," so foreign to so many of us, that became more and more central for these others, although the display of it became more calculated, masked, and subtly disguised over time.
Nevertheless, that wouldn't stop the occasional derisive name-calling erupting from their lips, and from those actions still later evolving into smear campaigns and other various misrepresentations if these elitists were ever openly challenged by any they thought inferior. Indeed, becoming more sophisticated in time, these tirades of hate and vitriol attacks became immediately unleashed and targeted under the pretense of needing to justifiably defend themselves.
The realities of these characteristics and nuances of personality are things that few of us ever fully recognized or saliently defined at the time. Indeed, most of us today remain at a loss as to why these kids behaved the way they did, or understand why somebody would actually chose to behave this way on purpose. Wanting to think the best of them, most of us probably believed that these kids would have grown out of their High School ways and become better people. Some did, for sure, but unfortunately some did not, rather hardening into more of what they would later become.
But let's first examine what is was we remember them being. Retrospectively, these kids were on the one hand well-liked and accepted, but would hysterically prove themselves increasingly mean-spirited, hate-filled and venomous to any that would disagree with them or suspected to be a nascent threat to their popularity and social power. These characteristics became more pronounced the older and more incubated in their narcissistic mind-sets they became. Yet, at the same time, they groomed themselves outwardly to retain qualities of charm that were calculated to turn your head and ensure the fawning of others. Although generally sycophantic and social predators and climbers, they remained popular and in-demand, often envied and never over-looked. As a rule, teachers and authority figures liked them, as well as did the whole crown of "wanna-be's" that followed adoringly after them.
In time, though, the cracks in their armor began to show; for instance when using others as stepping stones, feigning friendships when it advantaged them, tossing others aside when they were finished using them, to name just a few of the chinks as they became visible. Continually trading on their "coolness" and social comfort, they thought themselves to be better than others, more attractive and desirable than others, smarter than others, more intelligent and sophisticated, etc.
In fact, they would often call others "stupid," "ugly," "dumb," or "ignorant," usually attacking and denigrating things which were beyond one's control or genetics, even though their targets were often more intelligent and wiser then themselves. "Intolerance" they lived and breathed, yet they would worked to convey the opposite social opinion simply by denying the suggestion that they were otherwise; other people were always intolerant, never themselves.
|By the time High School rolled around, these kids had become socially powerful and adept at retaining that command through the many hate-filled strategies they practiced, including a vocabulary of code words and language, then regularly practiced at their command. They had become exceptionally quick and skilled at misrepresenting and cutting others down so as to further advantage themselves.||
Moreover, these mean-spirited individuals generally scoffed at any ability that they didn't possess or couldn't understand. They would often project their own neurotic fears upon any that they could neither understand or control, often doing to others first that which they thought others would do to them. Their acts of meanness and their abilities to fabricate various lies at the drop of a hat, and thereinafter become compounded at all levels of cognition, were generally effectively hidden from the view of others so as to maintain the credibility of denial and innocence.
By the time High School rolled around, these kids had become socially powerful and adept at retaining that command through the many hate-filled strategies they practiced, including a vocabulary of code words and language, then regularly practiced at their command. They had become exceptionally quick and skilled at misrepresenting and cutting others down so as to further advantage themselves. They lived so as to be envied and fawned over by others, trading on their popularity to become installed in student governments, school newspapers and year books, winning parts for school dramas, and everything else, including athletics, which would exalt themselves over other students.
Now, I'm not saying that everyone involved in those school activities was necessarily of the same mean-spiritedness, but a good number of those attracted to these positions were. The tell-tale difference was that for them, to simply excel at something just wasn't enough; they worked primarily for the celebrity in everything that they did. The basis of their pride was to have that which others did not have, but desired. This was the coinage of their realm.
Starting to sound familiar yet? If you haven't guessed by now, these manipulative and mean-spirited kids grew evermore sophisticated in their socially designing natures and now occupy many of the positions of social and cultural power, even denominational religious authority, today. They grew-up to become the liberals and socialists amongst us; those that are the politicians, the lawyers (and hence politicians!), the bureaucrats (and hence politicians!), university professors and those in control of the education of our youth, as well as those that control the media of print, TV, and of course, Hollywood....
In the same breath, however, I see the same psychology of mean-spiritedness in some of the extreme right: those that hide beneath the thin veil of their religion or political party who profess themselves to be Christians and Jews and moderates (and indeed are not), yet remain intolerant of any others who do not hold to their pretentious beliefs, and equally become prideful, exclusionary, and defaming to others in a manner which can be just as hateful. Just as so many politicians shamelessly claim they serve the people, these use their religious affiliation as a garb to more deeply cover their hypocrisy. About these Christ described warningly as wolves in sheep's clothing; latter-day scribes and Pharisees that serve only themselves.
|Parenthetically, as the Left has progressively sought socialist, if not Marxist, philosophical equivalence in the past 50 years, they have come to support those things increasingly opposed to what America was first founded upon. As they continually strive to separate God from government and public life, and demean any who would fight for our liberty to be "one nation under God," it becomes apparent that they don't believe we need God in our public affairs, insinuating that all our laws become suspect because they are based upon Judeo-Christian religious presuppositions.||
Yet, it has been my experience that it is increasingly and undeniably the "left" that seems the ever more destructive and active in the attack on our culture, a better place of hiding from those that would disagree with their "relativistic," secularly humanistic, ideology. Although, there are good men and woman that still call themselves liberals, no doubt they're becoming fewer and fewer, and the trend suggests no reversal in the near future.
Parenthetically, as the Left has progressively sought socialist, if not Marxist, philosophical equivalence in the past 50 years, they have come to support those things increasingly opposed to what America was first founded upon. As they continually strive to separate God from government and public life, and demean any who would fight for our liberty to be "one nation under God," it becomes apparent that they don't believe we need God in our public affairs, insinuating that all our laws become suspect because they are based upon Judeo-Christian religious presuppositions.
Indeed, they have taken the view of religion as do many Europeans: that it is something quaint and perhaps merits some historical and entertainment value, but relatively meaningless in everyday life. In an earlier time in our history (1832), the social philosopher Alexis de Tocqueville contrasted the new Americans and the Europeans in much the same way, observing that Americans seemed wholly galvanized in life because of the Gospel whereas his European counterparts used it only as thin veil to hide behind. He specially stated that his fellow Europeans practiced religion from a "barren traditionary faith which seems to vegetate in the soul rather than to live." Whereas in contrast he observed that Americans (oh, if it were only true today!) "combine the notions of Christianity and liberty so intimately that it is impossible to make them conceive of one without the other." He continues by noting that, "while the law permits the American to do what they please, religion prevents them conceiving, and forbids them to commit, what is rash or unjust." (Alexis de Tocqueville, Democracy in America, 2 vols., NY: Knopf, 1945.)
It seems that those on the left haven't been listening to this message, and have since formally moved into the French camp which has always maintained (since its country's revolution) that freedom and religion are incompatible. This shouldn't now surprise us. This is why those that seek only their celebrity while hating others that unwittingly stand in their way of it, are so quick to belittle and berate all those that wish to live by their own faith. They are directly challenged by any power or influence that interferes with their agenda, despising any form of Code of Conduct that God has authored to protect our inalienable rights, and the government of the people.... Which leads me to say sarcastically that Conservatives generally believe in God, whereas Liberals generally believe that they are God; hence their need for our absolute adoration and obedience.
But coming back to my observations more directly.... What is so striking is that these individuals just didn't "pop-up" or materialize into being. We all knew these people when we were kids---only then they were less developed! And, if we take a minute to think about it, we found them then as we find them now: rather shifty, untrustworthy, and dark in their meanderings, yet deftly retaining their charm and social fleet-footedness in spite of their underlying motives. Past President Bill Clinton's magnetic charisma is a perfect example of this... masterfully knowing when to cock his head and bite his bottom lip on queue for the cameras. I don't believe this is an over-simplification on my part, rather it's a rediscovery of what ever happened to those kids we grew up with, and perhaps the reason why our culture has become so hijacked.
|When we recall early episodes of our youth, we realize that even then these individuals were amongst us, learning how to propagandize their rationale and control over others. When we were still learning how to read and write and get along with one another, they were becoming steeped in their own perversions of social control, self-exaltation, and hegemony of their own secular making. Look back honestly. You'll discover the same techniques and programs of denial and manipulation used by them then are still being used today, although, admittedly, they've become more skilled in their execution.||
So, no matter if they hide behind the more refined social veils of today, calling themselves by some political or religious names, these same people today are motivated by the same underlying hatred which was first so much a part of them in their youth. The same hateful antics used by these people when younger are still being used today right in front of us all. Their strategies have never really changed, just become more refined. They may outwardly look different to us, but close your eyes and inhale deeply.... the underlying odor remains the same.... the pattern remains in evidence.
When we recall early episodes of our youth, we realize that even then these individuals were amongst us, learning how to propagandize their rationale and control over others. When we were still learning how to read and write and get along with one another, they were becoming steeped in their own perversions of social control, self-exaltation, and hegemony of their own secular making. Look back honestly. You'll discover the same techniques and programs of denial and manipulation used by them then are still being used today, although, admittedly, they've become more skilled in their execution. What I' m trying to say, is that no matter the legerdemain, the basic animal hasn't changed. The same hurt they inflicted upon others then, they are doing now, but now on a grander and more bellicose scale.
The basis of most of what they do remains as simple, unadulterated jealous hatred for any who get in their way. It is telltale to their actions. Just connect the dots. You can see it every night on the national news. Little discussion can ever occur with those that have had a lifetime of such practice; they tear down anything that is not made in their image and never suggest an intelligent alternative. They contend, rather than argue or debate. They become hysterical so as to dis-inform and cloud the topic matter at hand rather than answer any question directly.
In fact, that is the basis of any strategy of propaganda: namely, to repetitiously overwhelm and exceed the listener's capacities for attention or adaptation to the topic at hand, thus overwhelming his or her capacities for resistance---to rapaciously attack the sensorium so as to circumvent any attempt of fashioning a retort. The result is literally dumb-founding.
Hate-filled Liberals attribute this manner to their "quick repartee." The truth is that they have just assaulted our common sense and stretched the cord of reason beyond recognition, having invented their own twisted, perverse, and codified system of logic. The result is just as it was in childhood and adolescence---under the cover of subterfuge, their hatred for others that don't tow their line is hidden, groomed to force their opinion upon another, compelling us all to abandon our common sense and agree to their standards by calling "good," "evil" and "evil," "good"---or face their consequences of having our identities assaulted and raped, for which they will later innocently justify themselves.
To make this point further: just as some 85-89% of those working in the TV newsrooms and newspapers in the USA were found to have voted for Clinton and were of the liberal persuasion, it has also been aptly demonstrated (by statistically relevant, industry-standard, Lexis-Nexus searches), for instance, that in the print media alone, the liberal left and their proponents overwhelmingly resort more often to despicable name-calling, venomous character bashing, vilifying vitriol attacks, unfairly excerpted words from what one has said in the past, misrepresenting another's intentions, and even blatant lying or making things up without retraction, than do their conservative counterparts.
In other words, besides not keeping some of the more obvious Ten Commandments while insisting that they remain apart and separate from Public Service, they have demonstrated little if any problem in also breaking the one Commandment that specifically calls on us to "not bare false witness." Just like they did in High School.
About the Author: Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.) is a Clinical Psychologist and Neuroscientist having been educated abroad where he completed his postgraduate studies at King’s College, the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, and then graduated and received his Doctorate from the University of Oxford, Oxford, England. He has been in private clinical practice and medical research for over 25 years, being active as an author, popular radio and TV personality, public speaker, and biomedical researcher. An expert in a number of fields including Forensic/Criminal Psychology, Child and Family/Relationship Psychology, and Neuropsychology. He has also served as an expert scientific advisor, product innovator and formulator, and professional consultant to the Medical and Pharmaceutical Industries. He is the author of The Winds of the Soul~Heaven’s First Voice To Us, as well as numerous other scholarly papers and works.
Just like when they were our classmates in school, today they remain wholly immersed and continually active in their hateful subterfuge, projecting their meanness upon others, often accusing others for that which they are guilty of themselves, imputing their own motives upon innocent others within smear-based conspiratorial scenarios that are confusing and impossible to examine or understand, all the while baring false witness, and tar and feathering those that don't support or dare to challenge their perspective. Just like the schemes they hatched in school, they hatch the same today, but again, having become more skilled over time with their practiced slight of hand.
Therefore, anytime today that we may witness strategies that twist and misrepresent the truth, of hateful name-calling and denigration of character, of refusing to argue the substance of the matter but making ugly and senseless innuendos instead, know that it is, as it always has been, "hatred" which is at the core of such conduct. "Hatred" is the fundamental power behind the mantra of "Me.., Me.., Me...." It has certainly never been proven useful in discovering the truth, per say, but only in the furthering of confusion, where darker things may then conspire together for hellish gain for the self-absorbed.
Now, such selfish hatred is surely not the instrument of God, at least not the one that most of us worship within the Judeo-Christian faiths. So when we see hatred's incontrovertible lust-filled use of extending one's self-glorification and vain celebrity in any sector of our society, let us not be timid in understanding who the author of it may be, or understand whose servants those who practice such infamous ways may have unwittingly become.
Let us not be shocked by this discovery when connecting the dots in such a manner, remembering that we've seen it all before, many years ago when its burgeoning forms were then first developed in grade school and then grew before our very eyes. These are the same people that we once knew as children, the same crooked trees that we once knew as suspiciously twisted saplings, having since developed more fully from their hateful roots....; and by their fruits we may know them. To be sure, they are as bitter and as illegitimate now, as they were then....
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