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 Copyright © October 2002

Birds of a Feather:

Constructively Recognizing and Using the Patterns of our Life

~written from the common sense perspective of The Winds of the Soul~

by Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.)

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The solution of course was simple:  Let the air out of the truck tires so as to quickly and efficiently reduce its height.  Within minutes the tires were deflated and the entire crisis was over.  The crammed truck was gently loosed from its keeper and everybody involved felt a little chagrinned. The answer had been there all along, but only a child could see it.... 

I'm sure we all have heard the wonderful story about how an eight-year-old girl traveling with her family on the interstate solved a perplexing engineering problem that had stumped the best around for hours.  As you may recall, an eighteen-wheeler, semi-truck had gotten itself stuck underneath an overpass. Having been slightly higher then the bridge would allow, the truck was solidly wedged beneath the underside of the bridge and the interstate highway that ran below it.  It was quite a site, and apparently slowed up traffic for miles around.  Highway engineers and experts were called in, law enforcement abounded in attempting to keep traffic moving, media crews arrived at the site panting for a story.  But nobody could figure out how to get the truck free without destroying either the bridge or the truck together.  Despite everybody's best attempts, it just couldn't be budged.  Deliberation and failed rescued attempts went on for most of the day, and still no luck. 

Somewhere in the mess of backed-up traffic caused by the incident was a little girl with her family, slowly advancing within the one-lane allotted for movement towards the site of the accident in their car.  When finally within short viewing distance of the wedged truck, it took but a moment for the solution to pop into the little girl's mind and yell out her instructions to the highway crews at hand as they passed.  The solution of course was simple:  Let the air out of the truck tires so as to quickly and efficiently reduce its height.  Within minutes the tires were deflated and the entire crisis was over.  The crammed truck was gently loosed from its keeper and everybody involved felt a little chagrinned. The answer had been there all along, but only a child could see it.... 

Copyright © 2002 Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.).  All Rights Reserved including the right of reproduction in whole or in part, in any form or by any means, including but not limited to all forms of media print, audio, electronic and video reproduction,  without the prior express and specific written content of the author, except in cases of brief quotations embodied in critical articles and reviews. 

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That is why I believe that reexamining our own histories can be exceptionally beneficial in understanding our present world, for in them can be found many useful patterns and templates that were first shone to us in childhood and adolescence that few of us today exercise.  With this in mind, many of the people we see today, we have met in kind when we were younger, and knew them intimately, as well.

 Makes you wonder, doesn't it?  Sometimes we forget to mind the differences and similarities between the forest and the trees, or note the derivations of same.  Much of our world around us could be more easily understood if we took the care and patience to see it in its proper perspective.  Much of our confusion stems from the fact that we're either too close or too far away from our problems to readily see their solutions.  The little eight-year-old girl with the tire solution above was apparently just the right distance to see clearly what must be done, and she no doubt had a pattern of perception that she remained loyal to in order to so clearly see the forest through the trees.  And we should be able to learn something very important from this....  Namely, without using the correct pattern recognition strategy, our world can appear more confusing and befuddling than it really is....

One way of becoming more adept in finding the correct perspective is to recall the patterns and types of things we have already categorized in life and found to be true, especially those already proven out in childhood, and see if these historical patterns can't help make sense out of the present circumstance we may find ourselves in.  With some practice, pattern recognition and application to the problem at hand can greatly enhance our world view and our understanding of others in it.

That is why I believe that reexamining our own histories can be exceptionally beneficial in understanding our present world, for in them can be found many useful patterns and templates that were first shone to us in childhood and adolescence that few of us today exercise.  With this in mind, many of the people we see today, we have met in kind when we were younger, and knew them intimately, as well.

For instance, I can recall to some degree the people who were my classmates in grade school.   Although our personalities were then just developing, there was enough about us all that showed what directions we would likely chose in life, what kind of people we would generally become, and the things we would probably stand for.  Despite some exceptions, most of us stay true to the patterns of personality formed in our early childhood.

 Two vast and general categories come to mind.  The first bunch were like most of the kids I grew up with and you would probably recognize as well.  These were good and nice kids in general----kindly, thoughtful, and usually were of the type who tried to do the right thing.  These were the kids who (despite the possible familial problems they were having) thought about the welfare of others, and were basically sensitive and caring.  Although they would stumble over the concepts of fairness and justice, they generally would listen to reason and come to accept that there was a right and wrong behind things, and would cling to the things which were good, plain and simple when adequately explained.  These, too, would often think of others before themselves, and although were at times tempted to do differently, proved loyal to principle first, their own personal needs second.  "Doing the right thing" was important to these kinds of kids, especially when they were younger.  This generally describes the majority of kids as they start out in life.  It's likely a healthy description of the kids you grew up with in Grade School, and likely those that you remember best over time.

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Clearly though, there were a small group of kids who, instead of being altruistically based, generally thought more about themselves than anybody else right from the very start of their lives---having a particular penchant towards their own aggrandizement and egocentricities over and above the norm, and rarely ever having entertained a feeling of kindness or justice towards another unless somehow they benefited in the process.  This particular pattern of self-indulgence was always deceptively beneath the surface of whatever they did, manifesting a pattern which would remain true later in life.

But life, even early on, was not without its contrasts.  There was a second sort of kid that we all knew, as well.  There were a few others who seemed to defy the norm as we were growing up, although it may have taken some time for their personality patterns to fully manifest themselves in our school years.  Clearly though, there were a small group of kids who, instead of being altruistically based, generally thought more about themselves than anybody else right from the very start of their lives---having a particular penchant towards their own aggrandizement and egocentricities over and above the norm, and rarely ever having entertained a feeling of kindness or justice towards another unless somehow they benefited in the process.  This particular pattern of self-indulgence was always deceptively beneath the surface of whatever they did, manifesting a pattern which would remain true later in life.

These particular kids were not simply selfish, at least not overly so, for they were very aware of what others may think of them and respected the power of public opinion from a very early age.  Thus, they strove to continually refine their public appearance in everything that they did, becoming more sophisticated over time in hiding and deflecting from themselves any negativity or question of their character.  Outwardly, they would appear as a "good" kid, would rarely get into trouble, and generally were well disciplined.  However, they became increasingly skilled in belying their true motivations, learning to cover their tracks through strategies of disinformation, distraction, and deflection.  Skilled as well in feigning humility, much of their true nature would remain hidden beneath the surface of their characters, which through time they would continually reinvent, re-polish and republish.  This beguiling and clandestine behavior itself speaks to the fact that they knew what they were doing was wrong. 

These seemed most at ease when hanging in the shadows of right and wrong until a clear advantage could be won.  They strove first to be popular and were generally concerned about staging their characters properly in the eyes of others, especially the teachers and those in authority.  These seemed to have a knack of always aligning themselves with the "accepted," the attractive, the most powerful.  As they matured throughout Grade School and into High School, their continuing attraction to the constructs of popularity, status, and power became more salient, yet again, they were always very careful in hiding their true intentions, although the oddest suspicion of their sneakiness kept coming into view, and then vanished before the light of discernment could become too penetrating. 

Their need for recognition and power was always paramount and central in their personalities, an addiction which would grow unabated throughout life.  It would drive them to further themselves in a hundred different ways, but always the need for self-advantage and self-gain would be the real basis of any activity with which they became involved.  We all knew kids like this.... for a few of them were in everyone's classroom. 

If we think back, we would probably be surprised to learn that they were often behind the formation of cliques and special "in" groups, always orchestrating others behind the scenes, becoming more overtly manipulative over time.  I'm sure if we think about it, most of us can recall a handful of children who were always looking for the limelight (which in itself may not be a bad thing), but who were nonetheless considered somewhat sneaky and untrustworthy just the same, although many of us couldn't quite put our finger on it as to why....

At times, these were the ones who strove to be the teacher's pet, who determinedly sought for any means to be recognized by others, even if it meant that others could be hurt in the process.  Yet, they saw to it that they were generally liked by others. Though somewhat distant, they learned quickly what to do to be superficially popular with their classmates, yet always felt themselves to be better than their peers.  They grew particularly skilled in managing and manipulating others to their own personal advantage, while at the same time knowing how to distance themselves from negative and unflattering consequences. 

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This kind of liberality and unbalanced leftist mentation is well practiced and has been embraced ever since their childhood.  This pattern stems from an ego-structure that has been overly indulged, inappropriately isolated and unchallenged, allowing a personalized reference base to remain unassailable, irrefutable, and beyond impact.  It breeds a type of mental laziness which yields "clever" sophistry but unintelligent argument, protected narrow mindedness and self-serving agendas, topical and superficial rather than competent and substantial analysis, and an inclination for the dramatic in the hopes that "correct staging" alone will bring others to their way of thinking.  This framework, or template, remains an active but remnant part of their own under-development.

These kids were seldom discovered but often found later to be working deceptively behind the scenes to enhance their popularity with others, gossiping about some while laying down opinions to polarize the few that they feared or could not control.  These would always rationalize their activities, and vehemently deny any wrong doing by their hands, even if they caused it or were caught in the process.  These would also be involved with school government and other organizations that promised to promote their image amongst their peers and superiors.  These were social-climbing individuals, "joiners," and "movers," being very political and notably "liberal" at a very early age.  And that should tell you a little about who they soon grew up to become.  

Yes, that's right.  Many of those representing us in government today, are the very same kinds of manipulating and untrustworthy kids we grew up with, cleverly doing the same kinds of things they did in school when children and adolescents.   The pattern remains the same....  What?  Did you think that this kind of political behavior and liberal conduct, and the motivation behind them, happened to evolve overnight?  Of course not!  This kind of liberality and unbalanced leftist mentation is well practiced and has been embraced ever since their childhood.  This pattern stems from an ego-structure that has been overly indulged, inappropriately isolated and unchallenged, allowing a personalized reference base to remain unassailable, irrefutable, and beyond impact.  It breeds a type of mental laziness which yields "clever" sophistry but unintelligent argument, protected narrow mindedness and self-serving agendas, topical and superficial rather than competent and substantial analysis, and an inclination for the dramatic in the hopes that "correct staging" alone will bring others to their way of thinking.  This framework, or template, remains an active but remnant part of their own under-development.  And it's a pattern that all of us can see if we would only look.

At its psychological core, their base persuasions and motivations simply represent an indignant refusal to grow up, whereby inappropriate narcissism and shameful egocentricities remain insulated from effective realty testing or public exposure----all of which seek to be wrongfully legitimized.  In other words they seek to remake the world in their own self-centered image, stubbornly thinking reality is something that can be trivialized and made relative in the process.  If you don't agree with them----move over, because they are bound and determined to make your "land" theirs.  In fact, these demand that the world not just make a place for them, but they want a throne upon which they may govern the rest of us. 

Not to over simplify it, but I believe this is the psychological and intellectual basis of most so-called "liberal" or left-wing" thought....namely, a pattern of self-indulgence that repudiates common sense and seeks a place for itself to the exclusion of any that disagree.  It is a dynamic psychological pattern that has been continually and morally irresponsible from its onset.  It is the same pattern that we witnessed in our classrooms yesteryear and continues to remain with us today as the foundation of Liberal thought.  And so practiced as it is, it has become part and parcel of the very fabric of most politically Liberal personalities.  But don't be fooled, the so-called "liberal mentality" is not simply confined to a political party, although I have come to see that there are increasingly more of today's democrats that unwittingly if not mindlessly follow such a deceptive persuasion.

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These have learned along time ago that in order to get attention and fame, you don't overtly exalt yourselves into the limelight or openly profess the need for applause.  That's just too telling and obvious.... Rather, it can be done more deftly and indirectly through the support of a distant yet legitimate "cause," using it as a springboard for their own publicity and aggrandizement.

These are the very same individuals who, in kind, we may never have felt particularly comfortable around because of their ongoing shiftiness, cleverly changing sides when it most suited them, feigning friendship to their timely advantage, and never really standing for anything but themselves and their right and inclination to sophistry.  They still look to support the "causes" that promise the most personal reward and publication.  These have learned along time ago that in order to get attention and fame, you don't overtly exalt yourselves into the limelight or openly profess the need for applause.  That's just too telling and obvious.... Rather, it can be done more deftly and indirectly through the support of a distant yet legitimate "cause," using it as a springboard for their own publicity and aggrandizement.  Hollywood and the media, of course, are also very adept at this strategy, and is yet another reason why there remain many close ties between politicians and the "stars."  But rarely if ever, do these "care" about the basis of the "cause," only that it promotes their ever-present sycophantic advantage. 

If we think about it, it's really quite amazing to see that these same "bent-hungry" kids really haven't changed that much as they've grown older.  They still crave attention, fame, and power, and prove forever willing to do anything in order to get it.  The same patterns first observed in our school days, are unmistakably and alarmingly (and if it weren't so serious, comically, as well) being manifest right before our eyes in the present, although we may have to cut more deeply through their distractions in order to see them.  They're still playing the same game, and still believe that they're smarter than everybody else, having gotten away with what they have already!  In a sense, they remind me of a "cat" who playfully hides behind the sofa thinking that it cannot be seen, though its tail still remains in full sight!  They're conduct simply becomes more embarrassing over time, and I'm embarrassed for them....

It's really very strange to see these same people in charge of our world today, making the laws and decisions that govern and control us.  And that's very scary, as before not many of the majority in school really paid them much mind sensing that their game was afoul, but now they appear to be trying to govern the world....  It is incumbent upon us to know what we're looking at, to see these same patterns amongst us today, and know how to deal with them.  Otherwise, a couple of balls will be thrown by us, and we will be none the wiser.

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But just like those we knew similarly when we were kids, whenever they're exposed, they remain adamantly in denial....  Herein we witnessed the same pattern of deflection, dissidence, side-stepping, and unreasonableness as when a spoiled child.  The person in question is simply being true to his pattern of yesteryear.  When he doesn't get what he wants, he calls others into derision, no matter how obvious his own absurdities are.  His motives are clear, and indeed if we know the pattern from which he launches himself, we know that his course is so determinably set.

For instance, this last week, we all watched the U.S. Senate Majority Leader hysterically fume and tantrum over the fact that he'd been caught in his own trap.  Removing all the politics from our analysis, he has been shown to be just another one who is really interested in his own agenda first, the country's and the citizenry's second....  No matter his skill in "spinning" what we see into rather what he wants us to see, the pattern is a perfect fit.  I knew someone just like him in school, with all the same moves and turns---real slick until he gets caught, and then watch the level of protests rise to the point wherein Shakespeare himself would pause in new alarm.  The pattern is unmistakable.   

Having thoroughly documented himself already to have been a major stumbling block in passing any meaningful legislation over the past year while continuously obstructing passage of the U.S. Home Land Security Bill, the Senate Majority Leader could not help but to make a complete fool out of himself, showing his true colors for all the world to see as his greedy hope for control seem to fall through his hands like sand.  Surely, he didn't think that for over the past four months nobody knew what his real game was all about?  Yet, I think he was the only one surprised by the obvious statements of the President.... 

But just like those we knew similarly when we were kids, whenever they're exposed, they remain adamantly in denial....  Herein we witnessed the same pattern of deflection, dissidence, side-stepping, and unreasonableness as when a spoiled child.  The person in question is simply being true to his pattern of yesteryear.  When he doesn't get what he wants, he calls others into derision, no matter how obvious his own absurdities are.  His motives are clear, and indeed if we know the pattern from which he launches himself, we know that his course is so determinably set.  Sadly, we should not expect anything differently from him.  The more things change, the more they remain the same, don't they? 

 Now lets look at another, different but nonetheless, malignantly self-involved personality pattern that has become more salient amongst us today, the one clearly embraced by Saddam Hussein, the Dictator of Iraq.  Let's see what use that could be to us....   Although we are culturally separated, we've probably known people like him as well from our past----although admittedly those who we knew were greatly scaled down versions of the warlord variety because of the psychological limitations correctly imposed upon children within our society but not within the Middle East. 

Here's a man that was raised in a culture that overly indulges its males, extolling upon them a sense of superiority and rivalry that often becomes aggressive and hostile if one's needs are thwarted and not immediately met, while keeping the social and spiritual status of females a little above the station of the family goat. 

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This is what makes the Middle East so dangerous of a breeding ground for fanaticism of any kind---it openly advances the horrific and twisted psychological foundations for warlord mentalities.  Males are generally not restrained in any significant measure, the historical pattern being to strongly promote and invigorate blatant egotism (not contain it), allowing one to grow without an equitable understanding of human rights, discipline, and humility.  Moreover, this is the standard learning template being used in all their schools.  I submit that until someone changes this pattern, our war against terrorism cannot truly be won.

Unlike most in our culture, from his youth, Saddam witnessed no restraints or constraints regarding his own need-set.  He twistedly sought his own advantage in everything that he did, without the compunction of conscience or from any structure or social overlord.  In fact, his egocentric conduct, far from being disciplined and reigned, was openly reinforced and further encouraged by his culture and family.  Here within this cultural environment, there was no need for him to hide his intentions from others, since everything that he intended, no matter its source, would be allowed and cheered on. 

This is what makes the Middle East so dangerous of a breeding ground for fanaticism of any kind---it openly advances the horrific and twisted psychological foundations for warlord mentalities.  Males are generally not restrained in any significant measure, the historical pattern being to strongly promote and invigorate blatant egotism (not contain it), allowing one to grow without an equitable understanding of human rights, discipline, and humility.  Moreover, this is the standard learning template being used in all their schools.  I submit that until someone changes this pattern, our war against terrorism cannot truly be won.

Accordingly, Saddam was raised with little controls about his egocentric demeanor, giving rise to someone who would think that whatsoever enters his mind must be correct, since it came, after all, from his mind to begin with.  Whatever he wishes to be true, will be.... or others will suffer, and historically have suffered, the consequences.  He knows no outside discipline or fear of authority, except that which may be imposed upon from outside his country.  And he is inclined to rewrite history for his own convenience, that no matter the consequences already imposed, he's disrespectful of the lessons already given.  Again, he sees himself grander than everybody else, believing himself smarter and more intelligent than his enemies, being driven by a need to punitively punish those that don't agree with his mega-narcissistic propaganda. 

This is an insular, neurotically obsessive, self-indulgent man who remains true to the pattern of his own youth, whose narcissistic megalomania has been enthroned about him, making him believe that whatever he wickedly desires is "divinely right."  In this case, his narcissism needs no protection from reality testing, as his narcissism (self-love) has become powerful enough to create his own reality psychopathically----he is after all the dictator of Iraq, and whatever he demands,..., goes.  He needs no form of honesty, nor moral code except that of his own making, and that can be remade after his own image at any time he chooses.  According to this entrenched pattern, he will continually act out as he has in the past, and likely more dangerously as he has a score or two to settle with his neighbors and the United States who have openly and threateningly opposed his self-view. 

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However, here's a caveat specific to his own dynamic template that makes him even more dangerous than most:  Being naturally deceptive and inclined to the mentation of a cowardly bully, he will likely support and sell his weapons to others and encourage their use before he will directly use them outside his own country.  In my mind, this increases the opportunity of his execution of terrorism since there are then more avenues open for his aggressiveness to assert itself.

Roughly translated, he will remain compulsively true to his psychological pattern.  To argue otherwise is simply preposterous.  This means he will use the weapons of mass destructions whenever he chooses.  Count on it....  It's not a matter of "if" but "when."  Remember the pattern....  He is just, in fact, a spoiled, tantruming child with a loaded gun, who has never been taught to value anything but his own life.  We all know tantruming kids, but this one has never been made to grow up and has succeeded in destroying his own conscience. 

However, here's a caveat specific to his own dynamic template that makes him even more dangerous than most:  Being naturally deceptive and inclined to the mentation of a cowardly bully, he will likely support and sell his weapons to others and encourage their use before he will directly use them outside his own country.  In my mind, this increases the opportunity of his execution of terrorism since there are then more avenues open for his aggressiveness to assert itself.  Thus, true to this pattern, he will more than likely sell a nuclear device or other weapons to terrorists, encouraging them to attack the U.S. rather then himself directly.  Besides, he is one that increasingly revels in the ability to get others to do his dirty work.  Most importantly, this provides Saddam a way in which he can further his own image of being smarter than his adversaries, acting without being caught, which would be a great and winning source of satisfaction for his insatiable ego..., and that he particularly craves.  Again, all this may be said according to the pattern already established and verified by his own previous conduct.  By the use of this pattern, his bizarre conduct and behavior can finally be made accurate sense of.... to the point of accurately predicting what we should expect from him.

Again, what I hope becomes obvious to us all is the fact that patterns and templates have great utility and wonderful application in our daily life.  The potential for their use surround us continually, although we fail to exercise their strengths.  The historical patterns we may have available to us are generally within the reach of our memories, contained within the children we used to be, yet another source of intelligence that we don't bring to bear on our present life.  Those particular patterns and templates that have proven truthful and accurate to us in the past, can be useful instruments to help us better understand the current situations and people of today, if we would only lend an ear. 

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About the Author:  Dr. Gregory C.D. Young, Ph.D.(Oxon.) is a Clinical Psychologist and Neuroscientist having been educated abroad where he completed his postgraduate studies at King’s College, the University of Aberdeen, Scotland, and then graduated and received his Doctorate from the University of Oxford, Oxford, England. He has been in private clinical practice and medical research for over 25 years, being active as an author, popular radio and TV personality, public speaker, and biomedical researcher. An expert in a number of fields including Forensic/Criminal Psychology, Child and Family/Relationship Psychology, and Neuropsychology.  He has also served as an expert scientific advisor, product innovator and formulator, and professional consultant to the Medical and Pharmaceutical Industries. He is the author of The Winds of the Soul~Heaven’s First Voice To Us, as well as numerous other scholarly papers and works.

And even though these patterns may arise first from within our own histories, we may use them to predict and extrapolate an understanding from a diversity of fields, cultures, and circumstances.  With the right perspective, things can quickly come into focus and elements can be assigned their correct priorities.  Indeed, many answers have already been provided to us when we were children.  Remaining true to the patterns and templates we learned when younger can help us overcome, understand, and see our way clear in an innumerable number of trials and circumstances in our own lives.  Thereafter, we will more quickly understand what we need to do, if anything at all----as to whom should be our friend, or who we should vote for, or even how we should come to understand international affairs. 

So whereas, many pundits and experts may toil over the solution to a problem at hand, or have difficulty in cutting through the detail in order to see through to the heart of the problem, we can, like the little eight-year-old girl we spoke of earlier, arrive on the scene with the simplest and most correct answer in hand, having already developed the most accurate and responsible perspective from a pattern that few others saw or cared to use....  Now, that's smart!

 

Why don’t you take a moment and become part of the discussion. Share with me your perspective, questions, and comments; tell me what you think of all this by emailing me at: DrYoung@WindsoftheSoul.com.


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